Who Do You Miss?

Posted by Dianne on Mar 14, 2017 in Appreciation, Blog, Love | Tags:, | No comment

My mom was a very stoic lady and didn’t express any feeling that she thought might make someone else feel bad. When I went away to college (500 miles so I only came home for Thanksgiving, Christmas and Easter) Mom never mentioned that she missed me. I was the only one of four kids to be out of the house at that time. So I guess I assumed that with my dad, three kids, a dog and a full time job, Mom was too busy to miss one kid.

When my first child went off to college, I felt a huge hole where she used to be as a regular presence. I had a husband, two other kids, a dog, two parakeets and a full-time job in my life, but I missed her terribly. That was the first time it dawned on me that my mom might have missed me some thirty years earlier.

“Mom, did you miss me when I was in college?” I asked her one day.

“Of course I did!” she exclaimed. “How could I not?”

“I never knew that. You never said anything.”

“Well, I never wanted to make you feel bad,” she explained.

So now when I don’t see my kids—they’re all grown and happily living their lives in places of their own—I still miss them, and I tell them.

I don’t want to be overly dramatic or anything but it seems to me that missing someone is a lot like loving someone. I think my kids should know I love them, and that I miss them when I haven’t seen them in a while.

Who do you miss? Do they know it?

Cherish Your Relationships

Posted by Dianne on Feb 13, 2014 in Blog, Love | Tags:, , | No comment

A friend may well be reckoned the masterpiece of nature.

~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

When asked to name the treasured elements in their lives, most people name family or friends, and with good reason. A good friend or steadfast loved one stays with you in life’s bleakest moments. If you lose your fortune, your looks, your status, or your health, the people in your life can comfort and encourage you and help you enjoy your life in spite of your misfortune.

One of the things that I appreciate most about my friends is that they love me in spite of my flaws. They often hold me in higher esteem than I think I deserve. I also feel a little awed by my friends because they are so interesting, smart, funny, and cool. I am honored to have them as friends because I find it hard to believe such extraordinary people want to be friends with ordinary me. I have to control myself to keep from giving Sally Field’s famous Oscar speech—“You like me! You really like me!”

Friends are there to laugh with you, cry with you, help you face fears or problems, and figure out how to solve them. They support you and may even join you when you try to do new things.

If you are lucky, you may even have family members who are also friends. Those are the people who may take care of you when you are sick and support you when you lose a parent, a partner, or other close loved one.

What do you do in return? You cherish those people. You let them know how much they mean to you. You make yourself available to them when they need support. You celebrate with them when they are happy. You comfort them when they are discouraged, heartbroken, or bereaved.

You check in with them to make sure they are OK. You keep them company when they might be lonely. And you regularly write their names on your gratitude list.

If you are feeling low, you may question whether you have loving friends in your life. Don’t believe those doubts. You don’t need an army of cheerleaders around to make you happy. If you reach out to just one or two friends with an email or phone call, your day will be brighter. Make sure you let them know how much you appreciate them and you will brighten their day, too.