Who Do You Miss?

Posted by Dianne on Oct 3, 2012 in Blog | Tags:, , | Comments Off on Who Do You Miss?

My mom was a very stoic lady and didn’t express any feeling that she thought might make someone else feel bad. When I went away to college (500 miles so I only came home for Thanksgiving, Christmas and Easter) Mom never mentioned that she missed me. I was the only one of four kids to be out of the house at that time. So I guess I assumed that with my dad, three kids, a dog and a full time job, Mom was too busy to miss one kid.

When my first child went off to college, I felt a huge hole where she used to be as a regular presence. I had a husband, two other kids, a dog, two parakeets and a full-time job in my life, but I missed her terribly. That was the first time it dawned on me that my mom might have missed me some thirty years earlier.

“Mom, did you miss me when I was in college?” I asked her one day.

“Of course I did!” she exclaimed. “How could I not?”

“I never knew that. You never said anything.”

“Well, I never wanted to make you feel bad,” she explained.

So now when I don’t see my kids—they are all grown and happily living their lives in places of their own—I still miss them, and I tell them. I don’t want to be overly dramatic or anything but it seems to me that missing someone is a lot like loving someone. I think my kids should know I love them, and that I miss them when I haven’t seen them in a while.

Who do you miss? Do they know it?

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